Every human interaction should be thought of as a negotiation. When a conversation between people takes place, there is a constant exchange of information and knowledge. In most cases, there is a dominant partner in the conversation. That is the person who is talking more substance, being more interesting, and generally providing the energy in the dialogue. This person is generally perceived as being the more confident, interesting, and valuable. This makes them attractive.

The problem with most men is that no matter how experienced or successful they are, they find it difficult to bring out their natural energy and passion in conversations with beautiful women. This is a normal thing. We don’t want to look stupid, or say something wrong. What if we do something stupid and she loses interest in us? These thoughts are wrong, and detrimental to the overall attraction “game”.

The key to how to talk to girls is to imagine them as just another person. Even better, imagine that she’s unattractive and uninteresting. This will lessen your nerves, and you will be able to utilise your full potential. Talk about the things you like, allow her to respond, dictate the conversation. Pick up certain topics that she brings up, and talk about your experiences with those topics.

If you’ve proven your “value” by being relaxed, engaged, and confident, you will find that she won’t want to leave the conversation. You might even find that she is the one getting nervous! This is perfect. Here is where you have to manipulate her into asking you out. Don’t worry, you’re not tricking her, you’re just providing her with a perfect opportunity to ask you out.

When the time feels right, mention a bar or club. Say something like, “have you been to (insert name of bar here)?” She’ll either say yes or no. Disregarding whether she says yes or no, your next line should be something like, “Yeah, I really want to go check it out actually.” Hopefully, her next line will be something like, “yeah, you should really go see it”. Here is where you have to be brave and say, “oh, are you asking me to go there with you?” Now, if she likes you she’ll say yes straight away. If she doesn’t she won’t, and you need to move on to the next girl. Either way, practice makes perfect!

Develop Your Sense of Humor.

Among all the strategies on how to talk to girls, having a good sense of humor is probably the most effective.

Here are some great tips to improve your sense of humor:

If you’ve accidentally done something ridiculous or embarrassing, turn that situation into a joke. Learning to accept your own mistakes is a plus factor for women.

Watch comedy movies and shows to know how to deliver humor at the right time. Then tell the joke to your friends and ask them to honestly rank how funny (or not funny) you are. Tell them that your dating or social life depends on their honesty. If they don’t think you’re funny enough, practice until you get it right.

Each girl has her own diverse personality. Tell jokes that fit her qualities. Don’t tell jokes that might offend her in any way. Be careful with sensitive issues such as religion, politics, beliefs, etc. Telling jokes about a certain politician or actor might turn out disastrous if she’s a loyal fan of them.

Stay informed of current news and the latest jokes. You don’t want to tell her a joke that she has heard many times before. Knowing what not to talk about is as important as knowing how to talk to girls.

If she also shows her humorous side, observe her style. Then weave your own style into hers. Be subtle; don’t be too obvious that she notices you copying her approach.

Your body language is equally important in delivering your joke. Use the right facial expression and gestures.

If she’s genuinely laughing, and sometimes holding or shoving you in a teasing manner, that means she’s very much into you.

Calm and Confident.

The more nervous you are, the more prone you are to stutter and make mistakes when talking. You’ll also have a very tough time coming up with anything interesting to say when you’re anxious. So take it easy and be yourself. Women may notice if you’re just “acting” out to impress her, and this might even turn her off.

Ask The “Right” Questions.

Ask questions that will encourage her to talk further and flaunt her ability or experiences. Don’t ask questions that lead to a dead-end answer such as “yes” or “no”, or questions that delve deeply into her private life (especially when you’ve just met). Moreover, don’t ask silly questions for the sake of having something to say.

Play the questions game- Sometimes you might go blank in the mind and might not know what to say. Under this situation it’s always good to ask the girl as to what she does, what does she do for fun etc. You see when she is answering you; you would get some raw material to make more conversation out of it.

Know what you are saying- You see some guys don’t know what they are saying as some of them tend to get real overwhelmed by the situation. You see when you feel stuck in such a situation it’s always best to control your mind and at the same time control your words.

Ask for a social favor and start talking- Well most men tend to approach women and start talking by saying- I thought I should come over and say hi etc. You see such opening lines don’t work anymore rather the best way to approach her would be to ask for a social favor. For example if she is standing anywhere close to you take out your cell phone and say this- Hey! Do you know the spelling of “exaggerated”? You see this way you have started a conversation and you can easily carry it on from over there.

Get Girls To Laugh

January 23, 2009

Make her laugh- If there was one skill you must learn when it comes to the matter of talking to girls then it’s knowing how to make a girl laugh. Everyone loves to laugh and if you can develop a strong ability to make a girl laugh there is absolutely no reason why she wouldn’t enjoy your company. Memorize a lot of witty and funny one liners and mix it into the conversation. The best possible way to make her laugh is to really mix it all into a normal conversation.

Always have a good opener- Your first impression would always be the last impression when it comes to the matter of dating and women. You see this is the basic reason why you must have a good opening line which would instantly catch her attention and get her talking to you.

Ask her question about herself- If you really want a conversation to flow it’s always recommended to ask a girl questions about her life. You see this way you will get to know a lot about her at the same time she will show a lot of interest as you are showing a lot of interest in her.

Firstly guys we have to face the facts of who we are as human beings. By understanding our own fears we can understand the fears of others. None of us like the idea of rejection either male or female. We do not like this because we lose control when someone rejects us. We become the under dog.

We would almost prefer not to face this so that we could keep thinking that we have the upper hand. This however is a fallacy. So we see that we are faced with the challenges of our own ego. We do not want our ego to be hurt.

So what has this got to do with chatting up girls? Very simply this, leave her in control. Do not ask personal questions. Take advantage of your surrounding for opening wedges of conversation. See some thing silly happen, go up to her and say “did you see that, what is all that about”. Inject some humor into it.

Then keep looking away do not focus 100% on her as that can be creepy. If for example you see a bunch of people wearing white shirts ask her “Are we at a white shirt convention or what?” bring in some humor to take the heat off. I think you get the idea.

This way you do not invade in her personal space. Then you look to see how she reacts. If she looks back at you and softly smiles you now have an opening to continue the conversation. If she shuts you down by saying I don’t know then turns away you are getting the cold shoulder.

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These tips on how to talk to girls should help you out a lot because they’ll give you an idea about ways to chat to a woman.

  1. Let HER do all of the talking and just feed her fire to do it! I’m not telling you to be a big bore, rather – let her be the center stage star of the conversation and let her keep it interesting. If she’s REALLY hot – laugh at all her jokes..:-) Even the dumb ones! (Especially the dumb ones) When the conversation is over….she’ll give you her digits for sure, and wonder if SHE bored YOU rather than you having to wonder if you said or did the wrong thing. Besides….a woman who feels comfortable talking her rear end off to you..will feel comfortable a lot faster with a whole heck of a lot more!
  2. Be confident and tell her whats on your mind.
  3. You’ve got to master the art of self depreciation. What’s this mean? Be able to laugh at yourself in conversation with her. Girls love a guy who can tease himself and doesn’t take life so seriously. There are LOTS of guys out there who are good looking, have good jobs, etc – but who are just BORING as hell. Why? They take themselves WAY too seriously and sweat the small stuff. This may work for a while, and even get you a date or two up front, but down the road, trust me when I tell you – if you want to keep her interested – laugh and keep it light.
  4. Become a player who tells the truth – so don’t use cheesy pick up lines!
  5. You’ve got to master the art of curiosity. Women, as you know – LOVE to talk. Even the girls you don’t think like to talk, do. Trust me, deep down – once you get to know her better, you’ll discover she’s as silly and talkative as the rest of us. So be curious. Ask a lot of good questions and she’ll open up. And I don’t mean questions like – “come here often” or ” what’s your phone number”. :-) I mean, be genuinely and sincerely interested in what she has to say, and she will respond in kind.

That will help you talk to girls.

An important part of making a girl want you, is all about the way you talk. You have to think on your feet, be funny and be witty with words. You also have to be confident but not cocky. Girls love a guy who’s sure of himself and makes them laugh. However you have to take some care not to make it all about laughing, lest you come across as a joker. Another thing when you want to know how to talk to girls, is to learn to appreciate the little things. Girls don’t spend all those hours in the mirror for nothing and once in a while it’s thoughtful to pass a comment on aspects of their appearance such as their nails, hair or whatever it is they have done recently to prune themselves. Flattery in the right measures will get you everywhere.

Something else that is important when you want to know how to talk to girls, is to know when to make your exit. If you haven’t yet gotten the girl, you shouldn’t spend too much time talking and being all-revealing. Leave her in the middle of it when her excitement is at its peak. It’s like giving water to a thirsty person, allow them gulp it up, and they’ll be so full they won’t ask for more. Give them a little and they’ll be back to beg for more. Sometimes its not about the length of the conversation, you can talk for a while, but don’t be in a rush to repeat the act the next day. Give them their space and they’ll want you even more.

A man who is the master of his tongue, is always a success with women. In medieval times, women ran away with men, based on the power of poetry and songs alone. It’s a talent that has never failed to work, even the most vile of human beings, with a way with words and who knows how to talk to girls, will woo them silly, time and time again.

Talk To A Woman

January 21, 2009

It surprises me how many men seem to have no idea how to talk to girls. Many men seem to be confused as to what is a correct method to speak to a girl. It it is actually not that hard. I believe the best way to approach it is to think of it like you are talking to your best friends. Ask yourself, how do I talk to them?

You should be natural in your conversation with girls and appear to be confident. By no means should you appear to be nervous when you speak to them. After all you are not nervous when you talk to your best friends are you? At least I hope you are not.

Girls like to be engaged in a fun and interesting conversation. Talk to them about stuff that you would talk with your friends, but make sure it is an appropriate topic. The last thing you want is to appear to be sleazy. Some topics girls love talking about is relationships, gossip, health & fitness and shopping related topics. Asking for her female opinion on something is a good way how you can talk to girls. Women love to give their opinion on issues that interest them.

Finally, try to have a sense of humour when you talk to them. A recent poll was taken that asked women what they found to be the most attractive trait in men and the trait that received the highest amount of votes by miles was a sense of humour. So never underestimate the power of making her laugh, she will love you for it!